Method

The shape of our work together.

 

Our work together starts and ends with you.

Your vision.

Your values.

Your capacity.

Your creativity

Your commitments.

Your community.

Your skills.

Your humanity.

Your impact.


Like you, our work is rich, complex, and multidimensional. We go deep beneath the surface to tend what’s real, at your roots. Our only “program” is in your being.

Guided by the intelligence of your senses, we bring warmth and curiosity to learned patterns of survival tainted by fear and shame—strengthening your physical, intellectual, and emotional immune system. As your capacity for life expands, so too does your creativity.

The prize when working this way: profound, lasting transformation. The cost: predictability. Meaning, I don’t know how your unique path will look or how long it will take.

I guarantee the most amount of transformation in the least amount of time, and that means different things for different people. This is because no amount of skill I bring to the table can catalyze change faster than your nervous system can adapt. We move at the pace of trust. Some clients get what they need after a few sessions, others over a few months, many choose to work with me for one year or more.

Generally speaking, you can expect:

1-4 sessions to work through a situation.

6-24 months for deep transformation.


Regardless of the depth and duration of our time together, our work will organize around the following three principles:


 

  • 1 — ALL TRANSFORMATIONAL WORK IS RELATIONAL WORK

    All living is relationship—between people, plants, thoughts, ideas, objects, systems… everything. When we talk about transformation, what is being transformed is our relationship to that which we wish to change—we shift from relating from fear to relating from love.

    Fear-based relationships show up as patterns of shame, control, and perfectionism, as well as superiority and inferiority complexes. They create empowerment through disempowerment, and physically express as tension, contraction, and heaviness, or numbness. On a collective scale, these patterns manifest as authoritarian, fundamentalist, and supremacist cultures.

    Love-based relationships, on the other hand, are horizontal and synergistic. They thrive on mutual empowerment. On an embodied level, love expresses as sensations of expansion, exhilaration, and relaxation. On a collective scale, love-based relationships manifest as peaceful political relations and supportive social systems.

    Our work involves discovering, and loving the versions of you who learned to keep you safe by relating from fear. The more love you bring to your fear-based tension, the more deeply your mind-body will relax—allowing you to bring more you to our craving world.

  • 2 — YOUR PROBLEMS ARE TRYING TO HELP YOU.

    Many of my clients arrive at my practice stuck in unconscious habits of fragmentation. They believe their best strategy to grow is to exile the parts of themselves which they find “bad”, “shameful” and “problematic”—not realizing that those very same parts hold the keys to their evolution.

    One client arrives at my practice seeking help to “be more grateful”. They have created enormous success as an artist and public figure, yet “always find reasons to be unhappy”. I wonder what threat “happy” represents to their subconscious. It turns out the only times they received warmth and care growing up were when they were in mental or physical pain. Their system had learned that misery was a pre-condition for care. Together, we support them to build habits of unconditional care into their daily rhythms, allowing their system to open confidently to joy.

    Another client seeks my support to “fix” the part of her who sabotages her nutritious eating goals so she can dedicate more energy to her creative work. Inquiring into the wisdom of her pattern, we discover that food is one of the only places in her life where she feels empowered to express her “NO”. Together, we work to expand and harness the power of her “no”, so she can set strong boundaries around her energy—allowing her to move from a paradigm of restriction to one of autonomy. We almost don’t notice when her eating habits shift organically

    You see, every “problem” part of you is actually attempting to solve for something deeper. If you’re too busy judging, shaming, and silencing them, you’ll miss their magic. Only by relating to each of your parts with warmth and curiosity can their inherent wisdom emerge. My job is to support you with a safe space to practice.

  • 3 — THERE IS NO MAP, ONLY YOU

    If you’ve been at this work for a while, then you know it’s not for the faint of heart. It can seem that the clearer your mind gets, the more obscure your path gets, and that the greater your capacity grows, the more intense the paradoxes and tensions you’re challenged to hold. This continues at your next level.

    You may have gotten this far with the help of binary “rules”:

    This = good/healthy/woke/safe.

    That = bad/sick/shameful/unsafe.

    These rules are training wheels, and the next phase of your evolution does away with them. Here, it is not the heights of perfection that are rewarded, but the depths of presence. There will be times you feel blind as you learn to see in shades of grey. Days you grasp for the false comforts of dogma, seeking control in the face of the unknown. Moments you feel exposed as you step out from the familiar walls of your self-imposed prisons.

    This is the cost of liberation—the rewards, too, are immense.

    All conventional paths lead halfway up the mountain, but to rise to the top, you must forge your own. I will walk with you, but not for you—next to you, but not ahead of you. My role is not to show you the path (I don’t know where yours is), rather, it’s to ask you exquisitely attuned questions which lead you to your own next best steps.

    Because, you don’t become a leader by following, you become one by leading yourself.

    Everything worth creating lies in the unknown.

    Will you meet yourself there?

 
 

As your co-creative host, my style is…

  • Informal, yet professional

    (we’re not afraid to snort-laugh or say “fuck” here)

  • Playful, yet thorough


  • Profound, yet practical

  • Warm, yet unafraid to challenge

  • Intellectually enriching, yet deeply embodied

I see you as both an individual and an ecosystem. This is because you are not an isolated entity; you are infinity in motion. Your existence is a culmination of all that is and ever has been—a continuum of patterns that will persist unless altered. Hence, our work weaves between the intersections of individuality and collectivity, mind and body, the known and the unknown—embracing the unique interplay of biology, history, culture, and environment that make you you.

The boundaries of our partnership are more fluid and flexible than those of traditional psychotherapy—shapeshifting depending on the needs of the day. This fluidity is great for those seeking a co-creative space of self-discovery, but not so great for those with active psychological injuries requiring symptom stabilization. If you are managing stable symptoms, I can work in conjunction with your psychotherapist in a support sandwich—many of my clients go this route. However, if you require symptom stabilization/trauma-treatment, I am not the right person for you.

Approaches influencing our work:

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

Interpersonal Neurobiology

Jungian Psychology

Neuroaffective Relational Model (NARM)

Design Thinking

Intersectional and Ecofeminist Theory

Embodied Transformational Justice

The Earth-based spiritualities of my pre-Christianized European ancestors (animism)

My practice is sex, kink, and ENM positive. And while, as a cis-heteroflexible woman, I’m not an expert on the lived-experiences of LGBTQIA2S+ folks, I am 100% committed to providing a curiosity-forward, non-judgmental, and protective space for all my clients—regardless of their sexual identity and gender expression.

 

Testimonials

Testimonials

“With Antonia, I learned to come home to my body and gently get in touch with the big emotions I was avoiding through my mindless hustling. The surprising result of slowing down and loving myself has been that I’m now making progress towards my goals completely organically. The destructive rage that I used to turn inwards on myself, I’ve learned to transform into healthy motivation to fuel the building of my business. I’m also no longer pursuing copied versions of other people’s success as a form of self-escapism, I’m creating success my way. Befriending my body has transformed exercise and food into a source of pleasure and joy instead of punishment and pain. And finally, I can now recognize when I’ve pushed myself to my limits of my nervous system’s capacity and have the tools to gently guide myself back into self-regulation, protecting me from burning out again in the future.”

• Priti •

“Antonia has completely changed my life. I have healed more in 6 months of coaching with Antonia than in 15 years of talk therapy. I started as a person who always felt scared, anxious, and stuck repeating cycles when I didn't understand why. I am no longer that person. I understand myself as well as others so much more. I am learning how to respond to the world rather than react. I am truly, deeply healing for the first time ever. The whole way I feel and think has evolved to a more comfortable place. This has honestly been the first time I have felt truly understood and supported by someone in my life to a deep level. I think this is almost invaluable. It has been the thing that is allowing me to heal and grow.”

• Harriet •

“What drew me to work with Antonia was the clarity and authenticity of her work. In just a few short coaching and breathwork sessions, I was able to create clarity as well as profound shifts in my awareness and bodily perception. Her coaching and facilitation style was very clear, to the point, and I loved that each session was tailored to my intentions rather than following some pre-set program. Antonia’s keen intuition paired with her ability to read me and my system beyond the narratives I was sharing made our work together hugely valuable. Our time together, while brief, was deeply inspiring and her breathwork facilitation was just incredible!”

• Tota •

“Since working with Antonia, I have noticed that I am much kinder to myself and have loosened expectations that were coming from a shame-based place. I am growing more confident and comfortable in my relationships and connecting with others which previously brought me much stress and anxiety. I have also learned a great deal about my body and how to take care of it - responding to it when it has a message for me. These are only a few of the things that have improved, but in my day-to-day life they are massive shifts that have made my internal and external life much more peaceful.”

• Kelly •

“Through working with Antonia, I was able to find my inner compass, learn to trust and have compassion for myself again. I was able to discern important life decisions and I can rely on our experience to set new standards for myself. Stepping forward towards my goals was the ultimate challenge. It is now a month since the end of our contract and just a few days away from new years and I suddenly realized I was hitting all my objectives this years and some I had not even planned for! Expect to feel safe, heard, understood and supported. You better come prepared because this is one chapter in your life you’ll cherish tremendously!”

• Francesco •

"It's hard to admit how shattered my world was when I first met with Antonia. Through her one on one coaching, I was able to claw my way out of the depths and see the light again. Her careful guidance helped me align with my core values thus making my choices stem from a truthful place. I now move forward with intention, direction, and a deep understanding of myself. My inner core has completely shifted through the nervous system work we cultivated during our three-month container. Our time together genuinely changed me. Not only can those I share my life with see the difference, but I am living the difference every single day and I feel free."

• K.W •

“With Antonia, I was able to confront the pain that did not serve me and learn to let it go. Her presence abated any fears I had in being vulnerable. The gratitude I owe to her abilities as a facilitator is immeasurable. I stand today a better person than I ever was due in no small part to our work together “

• Brandon •

“I have been in the role of “leader” for most of my life. For much of that time, I tried to remain strong, calm, and dependable for others. In trying to be strong, I also hid my vulnerability and became rigid. I wanted to remove the veil I put up so I could once again connect to people through my authentic self. Antonia held space for me in an unassuming yet knowingly compassionate way. In her care, I was able to gently remove the armour I had built up over time and release the emotions I had withheld for so many years. If you're reading this and looking for some kind of confirmation, I hope you will allow yourself to listen to your heart and connect with Antonia. She somehow already knows what your heart wants to say and will create enough space for you to hear the message”

• Matt Lim •

“Antonia is warm and supportive and has a very grounded energetic presence. She is steeped in trauma-informed research and blends science & spirituality into her approach beautifully. I gained so much insight from the time spent setting intention together prior to breathing and the integration dialogue after breathing. She holds a lot of wisdom. Breathing together really helped to regulate my nervous system and bring my mind & body into a state of grounded calm. Highly recommend!”

• Monica Elizabeth •

“Antonia has the gift of clarity and calmness which came through many times in our work together. I worked with her over the course of 8 weeks and each session I came out feeling grounded, empowered, and integrated. I realised one effect of our work together was getting more results with less work in my business. I think anyone seeking alignment, clarity, and empowerment through coaching/breathwork should book a few sessions with her to see what could open up for them that is lingering beneath the surface”

• Zuri Vankevitch •

“Antonia intuitively and conscientiously creates a space of trust, compassion, safety, curiosity and support. In offering these to you she invites you to return the gift to yourself. She places your own ability to heal in your own hands. She has a beautiful and rare balance of empathy and care. Her openness and honesty creates a safe vessel. Even in the fear of vulnerability. You will feel heard. You will grow. You will leave with the tools, awareness and compassion to continue the navigation of your healing after the sessions are complete.”

• Emma Caroline •